Tired of working for your money? I daily have to remind myself that there are many people who con people for their addictions and that there are many of us who love them and give wrongly. News24.com, December 31, 2004. http://www.news24.com/News24/South_Africa/News/0,,2-7-1442_1641875,00.html. They had him paying all their bills, giving them money, using his credit cards and they stole from him. I was silly. There are very trashy neighborhoods in the area that I didn’t know about, In my case, I met a guy at a popular bar, very tall, blonde, said he’s German and Scottish. He gave her gifts like a new kitchen and a brand new bmw and now she's done a runner. He has since fallen again to the alcoholism and it has taken me 10 years to see what I did to myself in my own co-dependencies. They just wouldn't believe that he laughed behind everyone's back about how stupid they were and that they were dumb for falling for it so they deserved it. These criminals often come into their work because of financial hardship, seeing others model the behavior, or because of various psychological needs. Terminology. I think about it over and over and over, sometimes all night. The last year he moved back to the distant cousin family and I further helped him with money, to the tune of $12,000 to this point in time. So for the person who gave the conner 15 grand, you're not very smart. He came to my father's funeral and all he wanted was a free ride. I have nothing in writing from him, and there's nothing that I can do. I feel as though I have my parents back again. We were together for a little over a year. Jesse Lenz. I don't know his real name. They may turn to swindling if they cannot find legitimate employment. Many have specific modes of operation, although they operate across a wide array of scam types and tend to be hard to pick out of a crowd. He was using them. The next step is to make himself or herself appear to be the only person on whom you can rely for the fulfillment of your wishes, desires, and/or personal safety. By the time they realize they've been conned he's moved on to new victims. This particular man, I feel, conned me, but he did so with my denial of who and what he truly was in the beginning. I told them I would help put them in a smaller one they can afford on their own. He would go out and help him, but it turned out he profited quite well from the little help he gave and the treatments were causing bad judgment for the man he was conning. my father got scammed by a woman, who was my mother's carer. He wanted to take my place. He said he has health conditions and put on the nice guy act. Engel, Peter H. i say fine but I'm not giving you any more. He owes back rents and monies to women and men that he befriends. Don't get scammed! He is from Ponce, PR and claims that Isabel La Negra is his grandmother and is fighting to get an inheritance. We were soul mates who were "connected". He has two tattoos: one on his back (happy face/sad face) and one on his leg (samurai warrior). The use of a specific modus operendi gives individuals a better chance to protect themselves because it alerts them to what they might need to be on the lookout for. Circumstances made me get close to this man. My elderly father was conned by several girls he met in AA. In fact, a complaint that often echoes from victims is that the con man was the last person they expected to be a criminal. No one or agency can help me. Beware! Lesson learned. They need to get a real job and earn their money like a real person does and stop conning other people out of what they work so hard for. He establishes trust with the victim and uses the ability to read people and a good sense of timing to carry the schemes through. Well we decide it's time to come here to get to know each other and get ready to tie the knot. I thought I was in safe hands but he ripped me off. I have been conned twice in my life by two men. Be careful because there are many con artists out there! I did see it all after a couple months of how I was so scammed. i said no, you live in the uk and it's socialized medicine there. I have been conned. When his sisters refused to let him take everything his dad had owned, he was so angry that it looked to me like nothing but greed. They said they needed help for four years. Bunged on the nice guy act. If you act like you will never get scammed, you might get scammed. Although cons always start out with the serious intention of scamming, as trust grows, some con artists become extremely emotionally invested with their target victims. He is a dark skinned puerto rican and wears glasses most of the time. We talked for weeks, exchanged pictures, talked on instant messenger for hours at a time every night and we finally (i thought) fell in love. After victims discover that they have been cheated in some way, they may have difficulty accepting what the swindler did.